Let me share with you my favorite song in the cartoon series Zyc and Ryz are going crazy about, My Little Pony. It is sang by one of the main characters in the series, Twilight for his big brother Shining Armor who is getting married.
The moment I heard the lyrics of this song I thought I could use this to impart the kids an important message. Just like me and my Big Brother, I want them to be as close as they could be. Sure we had our fights when we were kids, who hadn’t? I still recall what our Dad usually tells us when we fight, “Dadalawa na nga lang kayo nag-aaway pa kayo.” (There’s just two of you, yet you still fight with each other.) But as we grew as teens and adults I can’t recall any situation that we fought over something. We went to the same school and the teachers who knew us would always praise us and tell us how sweet we were. I want my kids to be like us. To grow together with care, love and respect with each other.
I often remind Ryz not to hurt her Kuya as a way of respect. And whenever there are instances that Zyc hurts Ryz, I always remind him that he’s not supposed to hurt her because he’s older and he should be the one to protect her. I tell them to always love each other and I’m glad that most of the times I witness this. Zyc is a very patient boy. He very seldom fights back when Ryz hurts him. I also see how he talks to Ryz, his voice and how he acts. He has this facial expression as if he is a grown up reminding Ryz of not to do something which is bad. They also help each other when someone needs it. Just the other day, Zyc had a paper cut on his finger and he showed it to me. I told him it’s ok because it was just small. Later he showed it to me with a band aid and he said Ryz helped him put the band aid. These are just simple scenarios but I’m very happy coz I know I’m doing good in raising my kids. They even connive against me, whispering something behind my back then laugh at me. I just thought, at least I know they are one in thoughts and they understand each other.
They also get along very well. Other mothers here were surprised when they learned that my kids play with each other. It seems here, boys are supposed to play with other boys only and same with the girls. That’s why last time, when Zyc got invited in one of his classmates’ house Ryz was left alone with me.
Though me and my Big Brother are now far apart, we didn’t lose that closeness in our relationship and I pray that when the time comes that Zyc and Ryz have families of their own they’ll still have that same bond and loving relationship with each other.